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24 things you say that are holding you back at work

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When working remotely, your word choice matters just that much more.

Your influence isn't so much about what you say but how you say it.

The University of California at Los Angeles Professor Emeritus Albert Mehrabian attributesonly about 7 percent of a message's impact to words, with the rest coming from vocal cues (38 percent) and non-verbal communication (55 percent).

In the world of online work, we don't have our voices or bodies to soften our written messages. And it's those messages that are holding you back.

Here are 24 examples of the words and phrases that my company's AI-based writing assistant catches and fixes every day.

Write confidently

Some of the lowest-hanging fruit in how we talk and write is our use of uncertain language. Starting a request with "I was wondering...," an idea with, "This may sound stupid...," or an assertion with "I feel...," is the surest way to downgrade your message.

Even sprinkling your chatter with softeners like "sort of" or "kind of"-- which is more of a verbal tic than anything-- minimizes their importance. Review what you say or write, and then be like a fourth-grader learning fractions: Reduce, reduce, reduce! By being more direct, you'll sound more confident.

Say "sorry" less

A well-timed, specific apology when you've messed up is a good thing, but the problem is that "sorry" has lost its luster. We use it so much in everyday communication that it has become reflexive and insincere. Consider being a little more precise when taking ownership of a mistake or acknowledging someone's feelings.

For example, if you have to back-burner a project a colleague has poured their heart into, a tossed-off "sorry" can feel like an insult. Consider this instead: "You put a ton of effort into that project. I imagine it's frustrating to re-prioritize it."

Consider your tone

It's OK to be direct, but sometimes our tone can be negative. There are two versions of this: The first is garden-variety negativity, like "That sucks," "Just stop," or "It's not my job."Before uttering the words or hitting send on a buzzkill message like this, take a break and come back to it when you're in a better mood.

Neutralize your note or delete it altogether and call the person. Or better yet, schedule a quick chat for tomorrow, after you've had a chance to get some rest and perspective.

Don't be toxic

The second flavor of negativity is straight-up toxic phrases. These can be bullying, discriminatory, racist, or simply unhealthy. My company asked 1,000 professionals whether they have been on the receiving end of toxic communication at work since the pandemic began, and a full 38 percent reported they had. That number jumps to 52 percent for people of color.

Examples include racial slurs, calling someone a "snowflake", referring to an adult woman as "girl", or annotations with racist origins such as "blacklist" in data security or "master/slave" in software development.

Turn around negative phrasing

Speaking of negativity, sometimes people unintentionally phrase their messages in the negative when they would be more effective in the positive. For example, turn "We can't do [task] until you do...," into "We can do [task] when you do..."

Or, change "I can't get you the report until Wednesday" to "I can get you the report on Wednesday, earliest." Subtle tweaks can create positive vibes all around.

Don't be passive-aggressive

"Whatever," "Hope you're happy," "Wow, OK," "Just saying," and-- my personal favorite-- "As I said before," are all examples of passive-aggressive words and phrases. There isn't always a quick fix for these kinds of messages, but simply being aware that you're using them is half the battle. It can signal deep-seated issues or hurt feelings that you need to pay attention to.

Watch your jargon

Beyond negative and toxic communication, watch your jargon. Among team members or with a small group, there are plenty of shorthand words and phrases but resist the urge to codify them in writing. That goes for business jargon like "operationalize", "leverage", and "synergies". And "utilize"? Just say "use".

 

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